Dogs And A New Baby

I have blogged on this before and if you google the subject of 'Dogs and a new born baby' you will find a whole host of information on the subject.

It's a more serious problem than I first eluded to as we have TWO beautiful border collies and they are our pride and joy. From their perspective we are their pets - they roam the house, sleep where they want, play where they want and use any old object as toys although they usually stick to lots of balls of all types. But if baby toys are around then they will certainly play with them.

In fact, only yesterday my brother and sister-in-law brought around their two twins of just over a year old. There were tons of family there so the dogs loved it. Around the twins they were superb and they have seen many young children and have always been fantastic. The breed is meant to be 'medium' when it comes to liking kids but in fact we have found both to actually thrive with kids. The female dog is more wary of very young children and so will usually keep out of their way, yet yesterday she went up and quietly smelt the backs of their heads and gave gentle licks. The boy dog, meanwhile, loves interaction and so he was going about his normal games but actually avoiding the children as he ran around. He also went up and sniffed each twin and gave gentle licks on the nose. The dogs also stole a plastic duck to play with which they have now claimed as theirs. Alarm bells rang on all counts.

So while our dogs do not appear dangerous with kids - in fact, quite the opposite - the problem really revolves around the way they take toys and generally how they interact with the kids in terms of curiosity and, particularly, licking. We also have a brilliant picture (above) of the boy dog with a friend's 1.5 year old daughter on his back as she rode him, holding onto his ears for support - child and dog loved it.

There are other serious issues. Firstly, the dogs are the centre of our attention. They get played with, they want cuddles and they have tons of walks. They have the run of the place. So if a new child comes into the mix, they may no longer be the centre of attention and they will certainly not have the run of the place - jealousy may come into play. The second thing is that dogs carry germs. No matter how often you bath your dog or think they don't smell - they are still animals and they have lots of bacteria on them, on their rears and mouths. They love to lick and sit so you can imagine the kinds of possibilities here. They are walking and living dangerous things just from the fact they carry bacteria around.

We are meticulous in the way we wash our hands and handle food but we are going to have to step up a gear. Lots of anti-bacteria gel and thoroughly cleaned surfaces and feeding things. We are also going to have to ban the dogs from upstairs where the baby sleeps as they roam at nights, sleeping where they want. There is also fur - we have tons of it around the house and we wash things so many times that we regularly fill up the filter on the washing machine which has to be cleaned out. This is going to have to change. The lawn is a human no-go area no matter how many times we clean up out there - these things are now real issues to us where once we were laissez-faire about the two animals.

They are not going to like all this clamping down and new rules, that's for sure. And they won't like not being No. 1 attention-magnets in our house. I have tried talking them through it, introduced them to the 'bump', made constant references to the arrival of a new 'baba' plus we have attempted to let them know the new rules. Either they don't understand Powerpoint, can't read memos or they are ignoring me.

We don't want to curb our dogs too much but we are going to have to get them used to the idea of a new baby and what they can and can't do right from the start. There are plenty of tips and articles on websites about this but we have a headstart. Border Collies are extremely intelligent dogs and the boy dog currently responds and differentiates between around 50 and 100 different words, objects and commands. The girl just lets on she doesn't know. The command 'leave' is the strongest they have both learnt and that will be a major help. The first steps of introduction will be vitally important to set the proper scene and we will have to make sure that we still give ample attention to the dogs as well as the baby.

What most of the articles do say is that the mum has to re-assert herself as the leader of the pack - the alpha. My wife has no problem with this as she is seen as the household matriarch by everyone already and I am down the bottom of the ranking stack in the dogs' minds although the girl dog is definitely as daddy's girl. However, the point is well made. The key things for us is to watch out for are jealousy and stealing.

But in the back of my mind, I certainly do not ever want to leave our dogs alone with the child even for a second. As much as we love our dogs, they are animals and we should never forget it.

Cleanliness means more washing and thorough attention to detail and several 'dog-free' zones declared in the house. I wish we had a larger garden to segment an area where the dogs cannot roam but that will not be possible - we will just have to make sure we clean up more often and lay blankets down in the warm weather.

But we are also very much looking forward to having fulsome family. My wife and I both believe the dogs will thrive on having a new family member but we will be very, very cautious in those early weeks and months.

After that, I will post the pictures of them all playing.

What's in a Name?

There are plenty of talking points about having a baby but one of the hottest debating point has been around naming of the poor blighter.

My wife has already concluded the entries for girls' names and the voting has occurred. I can't actually remember being too much a part of that voting but I have to say that the names chosen are lovely. I had some late entrants which may make a repercharge but we will have to broach that later.

It has been boy names which have become the controversial area. In fact, every name I have suggested has been rejected. It hasn't helped matters that I have been joshing on the subject and making daft suggestions. But even when I get to a sensible name, I have been rebuffed robustly. To date only one name has stood the scrutiny test and that is a family name which comes from my wife's side. I have been anti that name to date even though it is not a bad name but more because my ideas have been brushed aside.

I dare say we shall get there and progress will be made when I stop suggesting ancient Welsh names like Cledwyn and Idris, although I happen to think my suggestion of Gareth was worth at least some consideration. I have even tried the entire Welsh front row but Gethin was kicked out early while 'Hair Bear Bunch' isn't a proper name.

My suggestion to would-be fathers is to buy a book of names and go through it line by line. We did much the same on the web for our dogs. While it was a good repository of potential names it actually drove us toward two names not in the book which we love and so do the dogs.

How do I know the dogs like their names? Because they wag their tails every time we mention them, silly.